Do you consider yourself a runner or a person who runs? In other words, do you consider running part of your identity, or a thing you do?
My short and easy answer to this prompt is BOTH. This response is based on comparing myself to others. Yes, I know we are not supposed to compare ourselves to other folks. But hey, I "used" to be a scientist, and a lot of my research conclusions were based on comparing results to to baselines.
Kwame as a person who runs:
Typically, I see myself as a person who runs while chatting with other runners. When looking at or listening other runners' blogs, podcasts, social media platforms, general conversations, etc., I'll consider myself more of a person who runs rather than a runner. Yes, I have run "everything" from 5Ks to marathons, and (for now) running a marathon is supposed to be a thing that "makes" you a "runner". At the end of the day, I do not see myself as a runner because I'm not as involved/engaged with the running community - whether in real life or virtually. For instance, I'll show up to a race, run the race, redeem my beer/wine beverages (when applicable), and go home...or go to brunch.
To be perfectly honest, outside of this blog and a few IG/Twitter posts (ok, many posts), I do not really talk about running that much. Yes, I'll mention an upcoming race or a training plan with folks, but I don't get too much into all of details.
Part of this sentiment is due to me being a very average (maybe even below average) runner, and "good" runners (IMO) tend to want to associate with other good runners. For instance, I mentioned in a previous blog that I reached out to my (soon to be former) running club about its marathon training program. Long story short, I pretty much was told that I was too slow (based on my most recent half marathon time) for the program. This type of interaction made me feel like I'm just a person who runs. No worries about the coach's response, because I quickly got over it and kept it moving.
Even when I listen to some running-based podcasts about experiences in racing or training, I often find myself zoning out of the episode or simply not caring. Do not get me wrong, I do find many running-based podcast episodes very entertaining and informative. However, I have to "force" myself to listen all the way through on many occasions. While some of the podcasters that I listen to are merely talking about about their experiences with running, many tend to boast about their achievements. Then again, some runners (or non-runners) might think that I boast in my blog updates. So, I guess all of this is relative.
Outside of my blog and the few social media accounts that I follow, I have NO idea what's going on in the running world. I definitely would be hard pressed to name five male and female runners. It's kind of funny because back in the day when I was not a runner (or a person who runs), I could list dozens of runners (primarily short and middle distance) without really thinking. Now, that's not the case. Eh, I guess it is what it is.
Kwame as a runner:
I tend to see myself as a runner when I talk to people who do not run or hate to run. I usually have this sentiment when someone asks me something like: How do you run for long? Why do you run? Don't you find it boring? What's the point of running a marathon if/when you have no chance of winning? LOL. I remember a coworker saying (in good fun): You know, 2nd place is the 1st loser. When I look at the dichotomy of this question from this lens, I tend to consider myself a runner when I'm placed on the defensive. Usually with these types of questions, I feel like I HAVE to defend why I run or convince someone that I enjoy running. One little thing about me: I will defend myself verbally without changing my mindset until the cows come home. However, as I have gained more years on this Earth, I have been a bit more open minding and will follow up with a "well, we will have to agree to disagree".
Back in my NYC days, I loved participating in races, and I have been desperate to find races in my new home state of Maryland. Ok, so in NYC, I primarily ran New York Road Runners (NYRR) sponsored races for its 9+1 Program for guaranteed entry into the NYC Marathon. However, I remember always (well, most of the time) looking forward to certain races. In this case, since I spent money on race fees and (in a few cases) have travelled to another state or country to run a race, I'll consider myself a runner over a person who just runs. Because if you are not really into doing something, you are not going to pay to do it...or at least my cheap a** will not. ;)
I have been known to fall into a slight depression (albeit for a couple of days) when I realize that I cannot run a particular race due to time constraints or an injury. Also, I routinely experience the common post-marathon blues after completing a marathon. I guess because of these feelings I am a runner because a non-runner would not become upset or sad over these issues.
Conclusions:
For me, I guess it's hard to come up with a clear cut answer of being a runner vs being a person who runs. Part of this is due to me (as well as other folks) having "multiple" identities. That sounds bad; as if I'm talking about multiple personality disorders. I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are made up of multiple aspects that truly define us. So (IMO), it is hard to take one part of yourself to define who you truly are. Nowadays, I think there is so much emphasis to place folks into a particular box, i.e., if you are X then you HAVE to be Y. During my teen and very young adult years (I guess sometimes now), I would have to downplay an aspect or two of myself depending on my situation. I guess I did not HAVE to do this, but I felt it was necessary. A couple of examples:
In college, I would downplay listening to rock and alternative music because I would be accused (by some) for trying to be White. Note: I attended a Historically Black College/University (HBCU), so most of my in-person college friends were Black. However, since I went to a predominantly White high school, I would downplay how much I enjoyed Rap and Hip Hop because I wanted to be "more approachable" by my classmates and did not want to be associated with negative stereotypes/biases. I guess nowadays, they call this code switching.
During my travels, I tend to downplay being in the LGBTQ+ community. I will not flat out deny being gay, but I will not go into great detail of my experiences being in the LGBTQ+ community, UNLESS I feel 100% comfortable. I remember being so annoyed/upset with my fake ex boyfriend during our trip to Panama. Well, MY trip to Panama. A trip, in which he was NOT invited BTW. He used the information about my trip, bought a ticket, and a week before my trip was like "surprise, I'm coming" with you. Anywho, one night I told him to stop telling people that we were gay and "dating". Not that I was ashamed. I felt like we were playing with fire because we did not if that part of the country is gay-friendly or intolerant.
All in all, I think it's perfectly acceptable to have multiple identities when describing a specific aspect of your life. If you are a runner, GREAT. If you are a person who runs, GREAT. As long as you are happy with who you are, who cares what others think? I guess I should practice what I preach. This consideration reminds of a saying that I recently heard: What someone else eats does not affect how I sh*t.